I've been single for a few years, and now that I'm fully vaccinated I'm trying to get back out there and start dating. For context, I'm a 27 year old bi woman who is currently only looking to date women. I'm not looking for anything serious, but I'm open to seeing where things go.

I've been on tinder for a while now, and it's so hard to keep a conversation going. I'm typically very shy at first, and it's hard for me to talk to people I don't know well. Does anyone have any advice? I can answer questions if need be.

Whenever I’m talking to someone new, well anyone actually, I mostly just ask them a bunch of questions about themselves. I love learning about people so I just let myself ask whatever comes to mind, and sometimes their responses lead to more/other questions. It’s nice because they feel like you’ve taken an interest in them, and people like to talk about themselves for the most part. And then any of these questions could spark a conversation. Just a suggestion, tbh I haven’t used tinder or any dating app so I may not be the best person to advise.

Like said, asking them questions about themselves and their interests is usually a good start (ie; hobbies, what they do for work, etc.) But also you don't want to force the conversation if someone isn't into it/only giving one-sided responses. It should be easy and natural for the most part (at least that's been my experience with the people I've ended up meeting from dating apps).

Back when I was on tinder, I'd use icebreaker-type questions to get a conversation going. My go-to was "if you could have any super power, which would you want and why?" I really liked it because it was a great way to see if the person was creative, what they valued, etc. It's how I met my boyfriend and we've been together 5 years :)

I always start the subject with some funny question like "who is your favorite twilight character?"

After a while, you can start asking things that are important for you in a relationship

I have a permanent ban on Tinder (for its own technical issues XD) but I use Bumble and I usually just ask some question related to a person's profile, especially if we seem to have a mutual hobby. Sometimes I add a bit about my experience on the matter, but not too much – I think the first message shouldn't be too long. If the person is interested, it's usually easy to tell even from the early replies and keeping the conversation going doesn't take much effort.

chemistry isn't inherently romantic but it's a critical precursor & i would catch a vibe or move on w the advice shared above to start convos

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